tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post115420983507151457..comments2023-12-22T08:29:29.230-08:00Comments on WHAT IS TRUTH: Your Online Marriage Service part IVKent Brandenburghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13419354741455959191noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post-1154420224139198792006-08-01T01:17:00.000-07:002006-08-01T01:17:00.000-07:00Pastor B "I have more access to beautiful women fo...Pastor B "I have more access to beautiful women for my son than he does for himself, so he would be choosing ugly by going the self-serving route."<BR/><BR/>I didn't realize you were sending your son to HAC. ;0>DaCatsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08940576017929388330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post-1154409804148671152006-07-31T22:23:00.000-07:002006-07-31T22:23:00.000-07:00I know there's humor in your response, but I think...I know there's humor in your response, but I think you're saying something also. I didn't catch it though. I just keep reading the posts. I see we're up to five and I'm sure there's more to come!Jeff Voegtlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16718288010688756299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post-1154388187722724232006-07-31T16:23:00.000-07:002006-07-31T16:23:00.000-07:00The parents credo: CHOOSE UGLY! Pastor Voegtlin,...The parents credo: CHOOSE UGLY! Pastor Voegtlin, I have more access to beautiful women for my son than he does for himself, so he would be choosing ugly by going the self-serving route.:)Kent Brandenburghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13419354741455959191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post-1154368794907990892006-07-31T10:59:00.000-07:002006-07-31T10:59:00.000-07:00I agree that dating can do funny things to a guy, ...I agree that dating can do funny things to a guy, almost turn him into a woman, in fact. And you are right that dating often stirs up lusts and passions wrongfully. I would point out that "doing it right" (whatever that would be) does not guarantee that lusts will not be stirred. In fact, young people must maintain a right relationship with God, and desperately need godly authority to guide them throughout the process, in order to keep from slipping. While there is a right way and a wrong way to pursue marriage, there is not a "safe way" to pursue marriage. Nor is doing things the right way to be equated with doing things the "safe" way. The abhorred of the Lord will still fall into the deep pit.<BR/><BR/>That being said, while there is no "safe" way, there definitely is an "unsafe" way. And the world's system of dating is that.Dave Mallinakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01251231774542596620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post-1154232204119668252006-07-29T21:03:00.000-07:002006-07-29T21:03:00.000-07:00I've been following this "marriage service" all th...I've been following this "marriage service" all the way along, and I know we're just getting into it, but I can't hold my question any longer.<BR/><BR/>If you're going to get to this, just put me off, but if not, I'd like for you to address this, if you would.<BR/><BR/>I've gotten the strong impression that obtaining a life partner should not be done as the world does in the lust of concupisence -- I think I got that part. But I get, along with that, that there really isn't any physical aspect to obtaining a life partner. I don't think the physical aspect is lustful just because it is physical (now I'm arguing for my question; is it really a question?). I think you know what I mean. I would hope that an interested young man thought the girl had some beauty! It's not like one part (intellectual, volitional) of the man can be attracted to the girl without the others coming along also. I don't believe in lustful concupisence; just wondering how we recognize/determine what is godly physical attraction and what is not?Jeff Voegtlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16718288010688756299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20213892.post-1154226572659980592006-07-29T19:29:00.000-07:002006-07-29T19:29:00.000-07:00But, when I was a freshman at Northland, a sophomo...But, when I was a freshman at Northland, a sophomore at Maranatha, a junior at International, and a Senior at BJU, I found that they all encouraged dating, gave opportunities for dating, and taught me how to date "the Bible way." <BR/><BR/>Was I led astray? <BR/><BR/>I think they were right, but maybe you are. Could you give some alternate translations of the verses you are citing? Is that what they really mean in the originals? Are you checking your teaching with the position held by historic fundamentalism? <BR/><BR/>I definitely would not make this a matter of separation. We don't need to be disagreeable about it. Maybe we could be balanced by letting our firstborn date, but our second-born refuse, third-born date, etc.? Do you like this strategy? <BR/><BR/>Have you called BJU about this? Is there an FBF resolution concerning the topic? <BR/><BR/>I really want to know the truth, but I don't think we need to be dogmatic about it. <BR/><BR/>Well, anyway, those are some conclusions I have reached. They are thrown out for your perusal. I certainly appreciate your tone and I hope that my speech is gracious and salt-seasoned.<BR/><BR/>Dr. (By Faith that BJU will come through with the honorary) Young FundamentalistAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com